August 11, 2017

Hurts, Habits and Hang-Ups

We all carry a question around with us every day. It’s a persistent question that doesn’t have a singular answer. We may not verbalize this question, but it always presents itself anew each and every day. Am I making an impact?

Who do any of us know, including ourselves, that doesn’t want what we do to matter? We can’t suppress our desire to make a difference because it is embedded in our DNA.

We may get beaten down and wrap our disappointments and setbacks in a nonchalant, “it didn’t matter,” attitude. But tomorrow we will again come face-to-face with it—“Am I making an impact?”

Obstacles to Impact

Over the past few weeks, I have spoken and written a lot about compassion. I told four different audiences last week that there were two truths we hide from the world.

  1. There is more going on in someone’s life than you will ever know.
  2. There is something troubling them that is painful. A situation or circumstance that is discouraging or embarrassing.

As I spoke about the power of compassion something hit me. We look at the world and can see needs. But sometimes we are the one who need compassion and must muster up the courage to ask for help.

Celebrate Recovery

Hurts, Habits and Hang-ups, Celebrate RecoveryOn Wednesday, my wonderful friend Rich Green came to pay a visit. He was bringing four leaders from Compass Christian Church in Colleyville, Texas to the Celebrate Recovery Summit being held at Saddleback Church.

My view of programs for “addictions” was that they were for people with alcohol and drug problems. I had not made the connection between the two truths we hide from the world and how we are all recovering from something.

Last night my wife and I hosted Rich and his friends Vicki, Kristi, Ralph and Joshua for dinner. Our conversation reinforced how deeply our need and desire for impact runs. It also shined a light on how we face obstacles every day that stand in the way of impact.

Hurts, Habits and Hang-Ups

Three words grabbed my attention—hurts, habits and hang-ups. A hurt, habit or hang-up can be anything that keeps us from realizing our full potential as a person.

  • A “hurt” is a life experience that has damaged your heart.
  • A “habit” is an unhealthy pattern that we perceive as a remedy for a life problem, but ends up turning into a chronic behavior or addiction.
  • “Hang-ups” are roadblocks to fulfilling your unique God-given purpose.

Our hurts, habits and hang-ups stare us in the face when we ask ourselves, “Am I making and impact?”

Self-Reliance is Not a Winning Strategy

I don’t like to ask for help. Do any of us know many people who do?

I am full of fear. Yes, even cowardly at times—especially when it comes to my own hurts, habits, and hang-ups.

Don’t you think most of us are?

Fulfilling your potential for impact and growing every day to become the best version of yourself cannot be discovered on our own. We all have hurts, habits and hang-ups that lead us to cling to self-reliance.

Fear and cowardice pushes us to be self-reliant. It seems safe, but it’s not. Self-reliance fuels the pain of hurt, the pursuit of unhealthy habits and anchoring of destructive hang-ups.

Mastery that leads to impact is not something you discover on your own. The trail of those clinging to self-reliance is littered with pain and destruction.

Mastery unfolds in a partnership between a teachable spirit and a knowledgeable coach. “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far go with others.”

Compassion is a Two-Way Street

Compassion poured out and shared creates lasting and sustaining impact.

Asking for compassion and aligning with coaches and resources to help and support prepares our path for impact.

The only missions in life that matter are ones that create and sustain a positive impact on people.

Thanks Rich, Vicki, Kristi, Ralph and Joshua for raising my impACT IQ!

Want more information? Here is a great resource!

Life's Healing Choices: Freedom from Your Hurts, Hang-ups, and Habits by John Baker

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