They’ve got it! It’s noticeable and drips of something you dream of spilling over to you. You can’t put your finger on precisely what it is. But they’ve got it! It’s compelling, captivating and amazingly genuine. Swagger comes to mind, but it’s different. It’s a cool quiet confidence.
Our first thought may be they possess something that is a secret to be discovered. As a result, we might believe it is untouchable and unattainable because it is a byproduct of elite talent or status. But elite talent does not guarantee it and status only borrows it.
Did he say what I thought he said? He most certainly did. He called it, “a phenomenon.” It is most certainly an annual event. But to call it a phenomenon would be overstating it.
A phenomenon is defined as an unusual, significant, or unaccountable fact or occurrence; a marvel or remarkable occurence. So it is clearly not a phenomenon. You might argue it is significant (it is), but remarkable—unfortunately not.
Why would you make a change when things are going well? Who would think it good advice to abandon something in the midst of success?
A good thing is a good thing—right? It would be foolish to jump ship or change course when the view and the forecast looks perfect. But is it?
High school graduation—you are pretty sure you know everything. But to remove all doubt you head off to college. College graduation—now you have added four years of profound life experience and a degree thus eliminating nearly any doubt that you know everything.
Graduates will send out dozens if not a hundred graduation announcements to friends, family and a few potential donors. Yes donors—people who just might wrap a card around some welcomed cash.
Do you know anyone who gets up in the morning, thinks about the day in front of them for a moment and proclaims, “I hope I get a chance to struggle today.” As a parent, do you think about your kids and say, “I sure hope they are challenged today?” Do leaders and coaches look at the teams they are leading and wish for them to experience failure and defeat?
I need to be reminded, sometimes frequently, that the goal of struggling should be growth and improvement—ultimately greater impact. Embracing struggle and the reality of being a work-in-process is not easy or comfortable. In the midst of struggle, the path to victory is fueled by learning how to get comfortable being uncomfortable.
Don’t you love the elation you feel when you cross the finish line of a successful race? Don’t you still recall a few great celebrations after accomplishing a big goal or dream?
We all have. And when we set our sights on a new finish line (an important goal or big dream), we are filled with great intentions and expectations. But then something happens. Your race grinds to a halt as resistance robs you of your passion and enthusiasm.
You’ve met it. It may have defeated you—maybe still defeating you. It is a constant companion of anyone who dares to run the courageous race—to pursue impact that positively impacts the important people in their life.
It does not discriminate—it hates all dreams and pursuit of meaningful impact. It doesn’t care about your talent, circumstances or condition. It is a force that stands between you and the starting line of the dream that stirs your heart. It is the blow that deals defeat and pushes you to curb when the finish line is in sight.
One of the keys to creating and sustaining personal and professional impact is productivity. Everyone knows it, but improving productivity is difficult. There are too many distractions and things competing for our attention.
I have been fascinated with goal achievement and productivity for as long as I can remember. Given all we know, why is it that just three weeks into a new year 72% of people who set new years resolutions have abandoned them. Before you quickly pass over this startling fact, pause for just a moment. These goals and dreams that are so easily abandoned are filled with impact. Positive, life changing, impact that would change the lives of the people we love and lead.
Oh, I have wanted to quit – haven’t you? Hey, I have quit and failed more times than I would like to admit. And it prompts me to ask, what is it that leads us to push aside great dreams, and set aside success?
I would like to think the gap was something so great that it would make for a good movie or book, but the reality is it was me falling prey to life’s temporary inconveniences.
Do you realize we are much more likely to come to the end of our days with a longer list of regrets than achievements? Over the course of our days, big dreams and long-term goals commonly get pushed aside and resurrect themselves as regrets.
Charles Hummel wrote “Tyranny of the Urgent.” The tyranny of the urgent simply says we live in constant tension between the urgent and the important.