Do you want the good news or the bad news first? Bet you pick to hear the bad news first—most of us do, but why?
We are wired to sense danger. Our brains are equipped with an early warning detector—the amygdala. The amygdala is part of the limbic system within the brain, which is responsible for emotions, survival instincts, and memory. The amygdala is always on high alert.
Do you know anyone who gets up in the morning, thinks about the day in front of them for a moment and proclaims, “I hope I get a chance to struggle today.” As a parent, do you think about your kids and say, “I sure hope they are challenged today?” Do leaders and coaches look at the teams they are leading and wish for them to experience failure and defeat?
I need to be reminded, sometimes frequently, that the goal of struggling should be growth and improvement—ultimately greater impact. Embracing struggle and the reality of being a work-in-process is not easy or comfortable. In the midst of struggle, the path to victory is fueled by learning how to get comfortable being uncomfortable.
Have you ever thought of quitting your job, abandoning a dream, or giving up on a relationship?
Have you walked away from something you once declared was important, and later come to realize you were defeated by your own doubt, fear, or discouragement?
At some point, haven’t we all been overwhelmed with doubt, fear, or discouragement in the pursuit of great visions, aspiring dreams, and important goals. It is silly and irrational to think we won’t experience these feelings.
Have you ever set an outrageous goal? A goal that you may have been ill-prepared to pursue, maybe lacked the skill, talent, or support to reach, but you pursued it anyway?
I remember setting my first out-of-reach, crazy, outrageous goal in the 7th grade. I loved basketball and after we moved onto Andrews A.F. B., in Washington D.C., I decided to try out for the Benjamin D. Foulois Junior High School basketball team.
What do you do when you get knocked down? You, get up. But when you are hurt, a bit confused and maybe dazed by the blow, getting up may not be so easy.
It’s a thief capable of robbing you of your future. It doesn’t ask for an invitation and will show up at the most inopportune times.
It can rob you of your peace of mind, your health, your enthusiasm and your ambition. It can come without warning and make itself an unwanted companion. What is it?