We have a love hate relationship with feedback. It is not an equally balanced relationship. We love to hear positive feedback and push ourselves away from what we perceive as negative.
We don’t wake up in the morning thinking, “I sure hope I get some constructive criticism today. Oh yeah, I can’t think of anything I’d look forward to more than a heaping of unsolicited constructive criticism.”
Do you ever think about excellence? It may not command your daily thought but you most certainly have dreamt of what it would be like to be truly great at something. I think about achieving and producing mastery all the time.
No one (absolutely no one) works at anything thinking, “I sure hope I can achieve mediocrity!” But breaking through mediocrity and producing excellence presents a tough challenge. I hear people say all the time, “I love a challenge.” We’ve all said it, but our love for challenges has its limits.
Less then 20% of Americans receive the necessary level of encouragement necessary to raise their performance.
Why do so many leaders, teachers, coaches and parents fail to use a tool that is readily available to them every day? Equally important is wondering why so called “soft skills” like encouragement are so undervalued and appreciated.
Do you make too much of stuff that doesn’t really matter? I know I have. How is it that what we embrace as vital, urgent and important at a given moment clouds our perspective on what is truly important?
This past weekend we may have witnessed one of (if not) the greatest Super Bowl game in history. Tom Brady and the New England Patriots engineered the ultimate comeback in Super Bowl history to send the game into overtime.
Take a close look at the post photo. What do you see? If you were asked to write a description of what you see, what would you write?
Every year a teacher took a white sheet of paper with a black circle on it and passed it out to his students. Then he would ask them to think about what they were looking at and write down their answer to a singular question— “What do you see?”
Everything rises and falls on leadership. The impact leaders can have on the people they love and the teams they lead is immeasurable. At the Global Leadership Summit I had the opportunity to learn from some of the greatest leaders in the world.
I was quickly and profoundly reminded why leadership is an essential key to changing the course and trajectory of the world we live in.
High school graduation—you are pretty sure you know everything. But to remove all doubt you head off to college. College graduation—now you have added four years of profound life experience and a degree thus eliminating nearly any doubt that you know everything.
Graduates will send out dozens if not a hundred graduation announcements to friends, family and a few potential donors. Yes donors—people who just might wrap a card around some welcomed cash.
Your have talent—it’s undeniable. It is exciting when it shines through in big moments. But why does doubt creep in and rob you of the self-confidence and self-assuredness necessary to perform your best.
Even people who are at the top of their game, recognized and celebrated for their talent, wrestle with commanding their best when the bright lights shine on them. The truth is we all feel like imposters from time to time.
Some of the greatest failures in histories resulted from not learning from past mistakes. Truth never ceases to be the truth just because we deny it. This is true—experience is inevitable, but learning is optional. There is nothing that says a mistake can’t be repeated—goodness we see it all the time.
One of the key qualities that separates high-impact people from everyone else is their ability to apply their own experiences and the experiences of others to improve their skills and results.
Can you? Or can’t you? I wrestle with these questions all the time. Two seemingly simple questions that commonly separates achievement and failure.
The pursuit of difficult goals present challenges and frustrations that bring us to a moment of truth where talent, past accomplishments, or ability will likely not determine success. A moment of truth that commands in us a belief that we can do it, a point where you don’t worry about whether anyone else thinks you can – you step out and do it.