We have a love hate relationship with feedback. It is not an equally balanced relationship. We love to hear positive feedback and push ourselves away from what we perceive as negative.
We don’t wake up in the morning thinking, “I sure hope I get some constructive criticism today. Oh yeah, I can’t think of anything I’d look forward to more than a heaping of unsolicited constructive criticism.”
They’ve got it! It’s noticeable and drips of something you dream of spilling over to you. You can’t put your finger on precisely what it is. But they’ve got it! It’s compelling, captivating and amazingly genuine. Swagger comes to mind, but it’s different. It’s a cool quiet confidence.
Our first thought may be they possess something that is a secret to be discovered. As a result, we might believe it is untouchable and unattainable because it is a byproduct of elite talent or status. But elite talent does not guarantee it and status only borrows it.
Do you have a favorite four-letter word? Ask a group of people this question and I can guarantee two responses—whispers and laughter. In either case, I immediately know they are not thinking of the same four-letter word I am thinking about.
I can’t say for sure we were thinking of different words because I did not ask for volunteers. Their reaction told me everything I needed to know—we had work to do.
If you could be granted one natural gift what would you choose? What if the choice was between intelligence and wisdom? Being smart is commonly identified as being a key to success. But is smart overrated?
As a kid were you frequently if ever praised for being wise? I am pretty sure if my parents would have said, “Oh, you are so wise,” I was being called out and being discouraged from whatever “not so smart” remark I had just made.
The title caught my eye—Unoffendable. I laughed at the thought that some people might be offended by the mere suggestion of being unoffendable.
Is unoffendable even a word? I have to wonder because every time I type it a red line pops up under it suggesting it is either a “made up” word or misspelled.
Impact! I think about creating impact every day. If you have thought for a moment about how you will be remembered, you have too! It’s your legacy—the level of impact you created with your time, talent and resources.
A few years ago, I read 20,000 Days and Counting. On your 20,000th day birthday you are 76 days shy of your 55th birthday. If you are short of this milestone, be forewarned it will arrive much more quickly than you think. If your days have stretched beyond 20,000, no one needs to remind you of the brevity of life.
Our days are filled with a variety of experiences. A quick review of your experiences would find they fall into three simple categories—positive, neutral and negative.
Let’s say you created a scorecard of your day’s experiences. You concluded that the day contained five positives, seven neutrals and one negative experience or encounters.
Do you want the good news or the bad news first? Bet you pick to hear the bad news first—most of us do, but why?
We are wired to sense danger. Our brains are equipped with an early warning detector—the amygdala. The amygdala is part of the limbic system within the brain, which is responsible for emotions, survival instincts, and memory. The amygdala is always on high alert.
May I have your attention please? Please, can I have your attention for a brief moment? In a world of digital distractions, brief is sometimes not even long enough for someone to read a headline. Today, the ability to get and maintain focus is waning and it is robbing you.
Our inability to focus and concentrate on important relationships and goals is a critical! It may be the primary obstacle to creating and sustaining meaningful personal and professional impact.
What would be different in our lives, relationships, performances and contributions if we focused on the wildly important? You know the people and goals that we plan to focus on when our feet hit the floor in the morning—maybe after the first cup of coffee.
I knew this was the right question after hearing my friend describe his past week as, “Crazy, busy, overwhelming and out of control.” Ever feel this way—maybe all the time?