The Happiness Advantage

A 5 minute daily habit that will elevate your success

It is an age-old question. We use it when pondering some of conundrums of life—which came first, the chicken or the egg? Well of course you know the chicken came first.  But what about success and happiness? Is there a happiness advantage?

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Are you happy because you are successful, or are you successful because you are happy? Many people, maybe most people, think success leads to happiness, but it actually is the other way around.

Change Your Relationship with Feedback

The Key to Explosive Personal Growth

We have a love hate relationship with feedback. It is not an equally balanced relationship. We love to hear positive feedback and push ourselves away from what we perceive as negative.

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We don’t wake up in the morning thinking, “I sure hope I get some constructive criticism today. Oh yeah, I can’t think of anything I’d look forward to more than a heaping of unsolicited constructive criticism.”

The Victors Challenge

How to rise in the little and big challenges of life...

The juxtaposition of youth and maturity (growing old) had my full and undivided attention this past week. In a brief 24-hour period, I found myself standing in a hospital room and a college classroom.

At first glance, I didn’t consider for a moment there could be similarities. How could it be possible that the intersection of youthful anticipation and the pursuit of graceful aging could share something so powerful in common?

Four Reasons You’ll Follow a Leader

Why are people behaving so poorly?

What is going on! Why are people who’s job it is to serve behaving so poorly? But maybe the more important question is why are the leaders of these company’s seemingly so surprised.

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The answer is simple—four qualities that engender people’s loyalty, commitment and effort. And here in lies the challenge, simple is not easy. Simple can be painstakingly hard and it can also reveal something in ourselves that we would never want to admit.

What Does It Mean To Be All In?

It's Friday, But Sunday Is Coming

Do you ever think about what it truly means to be all in? We all have had a time in our life where we believed with our whole heart and every fiber of being that we were all in—fully committed.

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But have you ever been committed to the point that it could cost you your life? Now “all in” takes on a whole new meaning. We might certainly not hesitate to lay down our life for the sake of our spouse or one of our children. But that would certainly establish the “all in” boundary for most of us.

Three Questions Only You Can Answer

And Why We Don't Like Answering Them

Kids are natural born questioners. Fearlessly pursuing their curiosity. As kids we would ask “Why?” repeatedly and without a moments hesitation.

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Most of us wore our parents out asking why? Then as parents, we faced the same onslaught of curiosity. “Dad, why is the sky blue?” I still don’t know why the sky is blue but I do know that questions are powerful.

You’ve Got To Choose To Be Unoffendable

Expand your impact and influence

The title caught my eye—Unoffendable. I laughed at the thought that some people might be offended by the mere suggestion of being unoffendable.

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Is unoffendable even a word? I have to wonder because every time I type it a red line pops up under it suggesting it is either a “made up” word or misspelled. 

Who Lost on Super Bowl Sunday

It's all a matter of perspective!

Do you make too much of stuff that doesn’t really matter? I know I have. How is it that what we embrace as vital, urgent and important at a given moment clouds our perspective on what is truly important?

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This past weekend we may have witnessed one of (if not) the greatest Super Bowl game in history. Tom Brady and the New England Patriots engineered the ultimate comeback in Super Bowl history to send the game into overtime.

Worry Fuels a Battle You Can’t Afford to Lose

3 Ways to Raise Your Thinking

You wouldn’t choose to do it. You may even recognize from time to time you are doing it. But for the most part worry silently robs us and weighs us down.

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Worry is a burden akin to putting on a vest in the morning and filling it with 50 pounds of sand. We finish our day wondering (maybe even aloud) why we are physically exhausted not realizing the weight of worry silently drained our vital intellectual and emotional energy.

Creating Your Future Today

Three steps to igniting the power of 2nd curve thinking

Full-speed ahead! The coast is clear and there is nothing but smooth sailing ahead. A run of success can lure you into believing there is no end in sight. The comfort of “a good thing” is not going to stoke any energy or enthusiasm to pursue a change.

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Welcome to the trap of the first curve. We rarely, if ever, want to move on from a success. The unfortunate truth is we have a choice to move on from success but are forced to move on from a disaster.