Marriage is Simply Hard

How one piece of advice can change any relationship

Monday is a big day. It’s a day of significant personal importance—my 12,775th  wedding anniversary. For those of you who count in years that would be 35 years. There is something of immense importance in measuring the marriage race in days?

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Leading up to our wedding, we both had just turned 23 and were fresh out of college. I was living in Southern California and Kristi was still living in our home state of Washington. We would get married on June 26, drive to California and launch into this race of marriage.

Happy Birthday—Overwhelmed with Urgency

Birthday wishes for you and me!

I have a birthday on Sunday! I am not sure the exclamation point reflects excitement or shock. As a kid, who doesn’t anxiously anticipate their birthday? It seemed like every New Year of age opened the door to new opportunities and privileges.

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Now, I must admit, there is a bit of awe and wonder about how quickly I arrived here. I like to say that I know our lives do not unfold as we plan or wish because if they did I would have a lot more hair. I looked in the mirror this morning and observed what little hair I have left needs a trim.

Routine is the Gateway to Breakthrough Performance

Where a great coach can take you

Would you be interested in meeting and learning from a world-class coach? Just imagine having someone come along side of you who could help you improve and refine your skills and raise your performance?

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The fastest path to improvement is to use a coach. So to say the least, I was intrigued when a friend offered to introduce me to Mike Wilson. Mike is one of the top golf instructors in the world and keenly focused on helping good players become elite players.

You’ve Gained Wisdom When You Realize Intelligence is Overrated

Why you should choose wisdom

If you could be granted one natural gift what would you choose? What if the choice was between intelligence and wisdom? Being smart is commonly identified as being a key to success. But is smart overrated?

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As a kid were you frequently if ever praised for being wise? I am pretty sure if my parents would have said, “Oh, you are so wise,” I was being called out and being discouraged from whatever “not so smart” remark I had just made. 

The Unique Quality of People Who Embrace Struggle

Willing yourself to win

I loved listening to him. Zig Ziglar offered up powerful encouragement dressed up in a charming southern accent. He was a master of motivation. Zig loved to say, “You don’t pay the price, you enjoy the benefits.”

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Do you like to struggle? You might be thinking, “Does anyone like to struggle?” Surprisingly the answer is a resounding “Yes,” because the greatest achievements, discoveries and breakthroughs in history were uncovered in the face of struggle.

Three Questions Only You Can Answer

And Why We Don't Like Answering Them

Kids are natural born questioners. Fearlessly pursuing their curiosity. As kids we would ask “Why?” repeatedly and without a moments hesitation.

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Most of us wore our parents out asking why? Then as parents, we faced the same onslaught of curiosity. “Dad, why is the sky blue?” I still don’t know why the sky is blue but I do know that questions are powerful.

Everyone Wants to Be Better But You Need to Get Better

The one thing that holds the key and what to do.

Would you like to be better or get better? There is a subtle but powerful difference between the two.

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Who doesn’t want to be better—right? No one would object to waking up tomorrow and being better in every role and responsibility in their life. So asking if you want to be better is an irrelevant question because the answer is obviously yes.

You’ve Got To Choose To Be Unoffendable

Expand your impact and influence

The title caught my eye—Unoffendable. I laughed at the thought that some people might be offended by the mere suggestion of being unoffendable.

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Is unoffendable even a word? I have to wonder because every time I type it a red line pops up under it suggesting it is either a “made up” word or misspelled. 

Who Lost on Super Bowl Sunday

It's all a matter of perspective!

Do you make too much of stuff that doesn’t really matter? I know I have. How is it that what we embrace as vital, urgent and important at a given moment clouds our perspective on what is truly important?

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This past weekend we may have witnessed one of (if not) the greatest Super Bowl game in history. Tom Brady and the New England Patriots engineered the ultimate comeback in Super Bowl history to send the game into overtime.

Five Timeless Leadership Competencies for Millennials

Taking advantage of a generational transformation

One of the greatest shifts in business history is currently unfolding. A generational transformation is underway that will open the door to an unprecedented opportunity for impact for Millennials and their organizations.

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You can gain a significant advantage by both recognizing and seizing it. It begins with organizations of all types clamoring to attract quality talent. But beyond attracting talent how organizations respond to this generational transformation may well predict not only future success but survival.