The belief something can be done and the fear it can’t be done are two sides of the same coin.
What goals and dreams have you set aside because you didn’t believe you could do it, or you harbored fears? Everyone has the talent and ability to do more, be more and give more. The lack of confidence/belief or the sense of fear blinds us to our potential and shrinks our “possibility box,” keeping us from achieving our goals and sometimes even pursuing them. Taking steps to increase your confidence and set your fears aside expands your “possibility box,” and increases your ability to achieve your goals and dreams.
You can expand your “possibility box” by employing six strategies:
- Practice. Engaging in deliberate practice helps you learn how to do new things effectively. Because confidence grows when we practice, we develop familiarity and competence which improves performance.
- Break down large goals into manageable parts. You can effectively break large goals down by using the “8 Steps to Achieving More.” Focus on steps 4 − 7 to break a large goal down.
- #4: Identify the skills and knowledge needed.
- #5: Identify the people, groups or organizations that can help.
- #6: Identify the potential obstacles you will or could encounter.
- #7: Identify the money and resources you will need.
- Engage a coach/mentor. Coaches help you maximize the quality and depth of your strengths, and help you gain confidence through practice, training and observation. Coaches provide feedback, reinforcement and encouragement, which are critical to gaining confidence and belief and eliminating fears.
- Manage your self-talk. No one goes through life without experiencing challenges, difficulties and failures. Be aware of your self-talk. Your objective is to silence your internal critic when you feel a loss of confidence or fear failure. Be assured failure and disappointment will not go away. But the meaning you give to failures will shift from deflating your confidence and overwhelming you with fear, to becoming learning experiences capable of propeling you forward.
- Act like you have been there. The truth is ultra-confident people may not be as confident as you think. They are simply managing their beliefs and fears more effectively. The mind cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is vividly and repeatedly imagined in the mind. You simply are going to start seeing yourself becoming who you think you should be and acting like it, which breeds confidence and starves fear.
- Employ the “Worst Case Scenario” exercise. Eliminating or ignoring fear does not mean the absence of risk(s). The “worst case scenario” exercise is a process to address the risk(s).
- Make a list of the worst possible things that could happen in the pursuit of your goal.
- With each “scenario” on your list ask yourself, “Could I deal with or accept this outcome?”
- If there are consequences you cannot accept, what can you do to eliminate or minimize the risk?
- Once you have reconciled your list, invest your energy in the pursuit of your goal. Focus on the actions and behaviors that will move you towards your desired outcome.
“Whether you think you can, or whether you think you can’t-you are right.” — Henry Ford
When we expand our beliefs about what we can do and starve the fears about what we can’t do, we break through performance barriers and achieve more of our goals. You can begin expanding your “possibility box” by putting these five strategies to work today.
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